Crane Design For Better Living magazine sent a direct response post card out first class mail. Included is an offer for a Free 12 issue subscription to Better Homes and Gardens Magazine. ($6.00 ea.)
However, to qualify for the Free subscription you must make a purchase from Crane. It does not say what the purchase must be for or any other purchase details. The offer also does not say how often Better Homes and Gardens will be published. Sounds like you can be hooked for $6.00 per month to Better Homes and Gardens magazine.
Great come on!!
If you don't want the subscription to Better Homes and Gardens as part of your unknown purchase from Crane then you must cancel your Free subscription within 30 days, or, you are in debt to Better Hones and Gardens magazine.
The good news is you can cancel, if you can remember to, and end up with Free issues of Better Homes and Gardens which you start receiving starting in 6-8 weeks. The bad news is that if you do not remember to cancel in 30 days and also send back cancellation documentation then you owe better Homes and Gardens $6.00 for each issue you received.
Great deal huh for a purchase you never made from Crane Design For Better Living? What are you supposed to be selling us anyway Crane?
What a suck in.offer from Better Homes and Gardens magazine.
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Monday, January 13, 2014
My Life Being Bullied
I started to write down the names of all the people who have bullied
me, both physically and psychologically, in my life and I realize that I
could write forever about those experiences. It all started when I was a
very little boy. I was afraid to fight back when I was harassed and
soon everyone had my number. Even though I was popular and a good
athlete bullies would find me and pick up on my vulnerability.
So, eventually at school, in the playground, at a party or the movies, anywhere at all, a bully would test me and see that I would not stand up for myself. So, besides the shame and disgrace I felt then I would have to constantly be fearful of being around that guy. Hyper vigilance and constant anxiety became the cornerstones of my existence.
I am now 65 years old and things have not changed except the ages of the people who test me to see if I will become their victim. I can still be easily intimidated if a bully knows what to say or do to get in my head.
I have used so much mental energy torturing myself because of the continual shame and repulsion I have felt that even after being in therapy, taking medicine, engaging in cognitive behavior therapy, and sharing my innermost thoughts about my terribly damaged ego and lack of self esteem I cannot seem to get any lasting relief.
I am constantly in fear of events occurring that I cannot control but feel I must react to..Threats. Even irrational ones. It does not matter. A neighbor playing loud music, a dog barking nearby that is creating a disturbance, a bully in the street I see taking advantage of someone who cannot defend themselves, or any other situation where I feel that I will have to stand up and walk through the wall of fear to confront the bully behind the disturbance..
I am either afraid to act and do nothing and afterward will torture myself for cowardliness. Or, I face the fear and confront a person I think is a bully. Very often for the wrong reasons. I often end up not accomplishing my objective of resolving the problem but only exacerbate it. Sometimes, I do solve my perception of a bullying problem only to have another similar situation quickly appear.
Long ago I learned to face fear even if it is not justified. I just desperately need the release of facing the fear that I could not face when I was a little boy. I learned how to step into the mouth of terror often for the wrong reasons and then sometimes suffer terrible consequences. There is no winning . The aftermath is still feeling bullied by needing to correct a situation I should have never created.The victory can only be achieved in my mind. Self acceptance is my eternal quest.
It turns out that many of my actions were not about helping the victim, whether the victim is myself or another person but about resolving something that I should have resolved internally. Sometimes it is not bullying, it is my bullied personality creating or distorting a problem. If I were not so sensitized to any situation that could upset my delicate anti-bullying equilibrium I would filter out real situations from ones that I just blew up incorrectly.
It's a.painful life being bullied or being a victim.
So, eventually at school, in the playground, at a party or the movies, anywhere at all, a bully would test me and see that I would not stand up for myself. So, besides the shame and disgrace I felt then I would have to constantly be fearful of being around that guy. Hyper vigilance and constant anxiety became the cornerstones of my existence.
I am now 65 years old and things have not changed except the ages of the people who test me to see if I will become their victim. I can still be easily intimidated if a bully knows what to say or do to get in my head.
I have used so much mental energy torturing myself because of the continual shame and repulsion I have felt that even after being in therapy, taking medicine, engaging in cognitive behavior therapy, and sharing my innermost thoughts about my terribly damaged ego and lack of self esteem I cannot seem to get any lasting relief.
I am constantly in fear of events occurring that I cannot control but feel I must react to..Threats. Even irrational ones. It does not matter. A neighbor playing loud music, a dog barking nearby that is creating a disturbance, a bully in the street I see taking advantage of someone who cannot defend themselves, or any other situation where I feel that I will have to stand up and walk through the wall of fear to confront the bully behind the disturbance..
I am either afraid to act and do nothing and afterward will torture myself for cowardliness. Or, I face the fear and confront a person I think is a bully. Very often for the wrong reasons. I often end up not accomplishing my objective of resolving the problem but only exacerbate it. Sometimes, I do solve my perception of a bullying problem only to have another similar situation quickly appear.
Long ago I learned to face fear even if it is not justified. I just desperately need the release of facing the fear that I could not face when I was a little boy. I learned how to step into the mouth of terror often for the wrong reasons and then sometimes suffer terrible consequences. There is no winning . The aftermath is still feeling bullied by needing to correct a situation I should have never created.The victory can only be achieved in my mind. Self acceptance is my eternal quest.
It turns out that many of my actions were not about helping the victim, whether the victim is myself or another person but about resolving something that I should have resolved internally. Sometimes it is not bullying, it is my bullied personality creating or distorting a problem. If I were not so sensitized to any situation that could upset my delicate anti-bullying equilibrium I would filter out real situations from ones that I just blew up incorrectly.
It's a.painful life being bullied or being a victim.
Compulsive Gambling: The Unconditional Lover
Gambling. One of the nastiest monsters of the world. Feed it and
it eats your soul. Starve it and it destroys your mind. To a compulsive gambler the loss of gambling is good reason for perpetual
mourning. Every ounce of desire in your body craves going back to
gambling again.
The adrenalin, the euphoria, the joy of knowing you will be in action is enough to inspire any gambler to go back no matter how much they have lost. I am not just talking about lost money. I am talking about lost health, family, friends. Losing your whole life.
I have gambled for over 50 years and lost it all. In the last few years i have quit gambling and slowly rebuilt my life.
Yet, I continue to long for my greatest friend and unconditional lover. Gambling. I was a very big gambler betting on sports, craps, and blackjack. I would win or lose thousands of dollars a day. I figured out that I have lost well over a million dollars in my life.
Enough to destroy me financially, mentally, and emotionally. Yet the monster inside my brain lives on unaffected. It says "You can do it David." You can set limits,you can avoid going out of control, and enjoy the happiness of being in action."
My rational mind keeps speaking at the same time. "Go to a G.A. meeting David. You are getting false messages. You are doomed if you gamble. You know that."
I do. But,the evil voice tears at my my heart and says "just do it. "You will do it right this time. It will be OK
The logical mind needs constant reinforcement to say no. The evil mind that is supported by emotion needs no nourishment. It never starves and is endlessly patient.
Look up Gamblers Anonymous online and find out where to call and where the local meetings are in your area..
I have not gambled a penny since January 9, 2009.
If I can stop anybody can..
You do it one day at a time.
You can only win if you don't play..
The adrenalin, the euphoria, the joy of knowing you will be in action is enough to inspire any gambler to go back no matter how much they have lost. I am not just talking about lost money. I am talking about lost health, family, friends. Losing your whole life.
I have gambled for over 50 years and lost it all. In the last few years i have quit gambling and slowly rebuilt my life.
Yet, I continue to long for my greatest friend and unconditional lover. Gambling. I was a very big gambler betting on sports, craps, and blackjack. I would win or lose thousands of dollars a day. I figured out that I have lost well over a million dollars in my life.
Enough to destroy me financially, mentally, and emotionally. Yet the monster inside my brain lives on unaffected. It says "You can do it David." You can set limits,you can avoid going out of control, and enjoy the happiness of being in action."
My rational mind keeps speaking at the same time. "Go to a G.A. meeting David. You are getting false messages. You are doomed if you gamble. You know that."
I do. But,the evil voice tears at my my heart and says "just do it. "You will do it right this time. It will be OK
The logical mind needs constant reinforcement to say no. The evil mind that is supported by emotion needs no nourishment. It never starves and is endlessly patient.
Look up Gamblers Anonymous online and find out where to call and where the local meetings are in your area..
I have not gambled a penny since January 9, 2009.
If I can stop anybody can..
You do it one day at a time.
You can only win if you don't play..
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Yahoo Barred Me Unfairly From Writing For Their Contributor Network
Re: Incident # 121204-033783 occurring in late December 2012.
I believe Yahoo engaged in unfair business practices toward me. I used to write free lance for Yahoo Contributors Network https://contributor.yahoo.com for several years until I was barred in 2012 from the site. I could not understand why. They refused to tell me the specific reason.
I have lost money and the joy of being unable to publish on Yahoo. I did nothing wrong in my writing that I can even remotely figure out. I tried and tried to get an answer from their team but they refused to explain.
I have now again renewed my efforts to be given an explanation. I will not stop persisting until a person from Yahoo or someone on the Yahoo Contributor Team clarifies the cause of my being cancelled permanently from writing for them.
It was the best free lance writing site I ever written for and I miss it. I believe they made a mistake and whoever terminated me did not want to take responsibility for.
Please Yahoo, tell me the story and allow me to respond whatever your reasons for cancelling me were.
I sent an email to the Contributor Network, and also to Marissa Mayer, and David Filo.This is just a small matter to Yahoo I'm sure, but an injustice is an injustice.
Yahoo is not above being accountable for their business conduct and basic fairness no matter what their Terms of service say.
Thank you.
David Stein
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Bullied On The Playground
ext.Grammar school playground-day
Alan is standing on playground with other boys during recess.
He shoves David.
David-Stop
Alan-Or what?
What are you gonna do about it?
David-Just leave me alone would ya?.
Alan-Pushes David hard again.
David pushes back very lightly with no heart.
Alan-Did you just push me?
David-Not really
Alan-Rushes at him, throws him down and punches him several
times. David tries to cover himself. Not fighting back No guts.
Alan-Don’t ever touch me again.
He let’s David up.
Ext playground-cont.
David-Walks back to class ashamed.. He can’t stop thinking about
and replaying the event all day.. He thinks back to brother Jerry's words. Coward. Not a
man. A man would have fought back.
ext.playground-day
Alan-Stands there looking at David walking awaylaughing with the other boys
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